Posts Tagged ‘Q/A’

Wedding Genie in West Midlands Your Wedding – Hot Topic

April 6th, 2011 No Comments
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Hi today I am really excited because The Wedding Genie is giving advice on this months hot topic, The Dad Dilemma, in The West Midlands Your Wedding Magazine. From time time Danielle Wilkins, the Features Editor asks me for some pearls of wisdom. It is a great opportunity to pass on wedding knowledge and think a little outside of the box. This month when Danielle wrote to me with this particular tricky question I had to get my thinking cap on. How can you please your relatives and at the same time please yourself?  Read on.

Question

My parents divorced when I was nine. My mum re-married, and I’ve always been closer to my stepfather than my biological dad. However, while I would prefer to have my stepfather walk me down the aisle, I’m worried this might upset my real dad. Is there any way I can have both of them by my side, or should I ask mum to walk me down the aisle instead?

Wedding Genie Says

Only you know the type of relationship you have with each father, but I do feel it is important to include them both to prevent any bad feeling throughout the planning and on the day. The good news is, most weddings break tradition in some way or another these days so I don’t see why your stepfather and your biological father can’t walk you down the aisle together. I’m sure they would both feel extremely proud to share the experience and it would mean a great deal to both of them. I guess over the years they have shared the milestones in your life many times, so this is just another for them to share in.

This solution gives you the best of both worlds, however if you’d like to do it differently, you could ask your stepfather to walk you down the aisle, and then have your biological dad at the front to “give you away” to the groom. Alternatively, you could have your stepfather walk you down the aisle, and then give your biological dad a role at the reception, such as a speech ora special father-daughter dance.

If you have had a similar experience I would love to hear how you dealt with it. Drop me a line I am always pleased to hear from you.

Until next time, happy planning.

Wedding Tips and Advice – Q/A

June 11th, 2010 No Comments
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As you can imagine I am asked lots of questions about all areas of wedding planning. Its time I started to share them with you. This will be a regular slot which you can use as a wedding reference area. Our first question to get started is:-

My parents are divorced but I want them both to come to the wedding. They are not the best of friends and my mum has remarried. Where can I sit them and how would you advise me to deal with the problem?

This is a delicate area. I totally understand you want both your parents to be part of the biggest day of your life. I am sure they both want that too. The key is to talk about it right at the beginning with each of your parents. It maybe that one of them says they won’t come if the the other attends. This is very tricky, you know your parents better than anyone. Explain to them that you really want them both to be there on your special day. They won’t have to sit together and you will make it as easy as you can for them. Weddings cause people to become very emotional so tact and diplomacy is the order of the day. Most parents just want their children to be happy and when it comes down to it will usually tolerate the presence of the other.

Regarding the seating at your top table, I would choose round tables so that you take away the focus from the traditional lineup of parents. You can choose to sit your parents separately on a table with their respective best friends and close relatives. If your Mum would be mortified not to sit at the “top table” she can host that one with you and your father sit with his friends and family. Another great idea that is becoming more popular is to have a table just for you and your new husband, this is called a “Sweetheart Table”. This way no one looses out and you get to spend precious time together. I have also had one of my couples table hop and swap seats with close relatives. They spent the first course on one table then moved for the main course. If you do this remember that the people you swap with will be sitting on your top table so choose to do it with close friends or relatives.

If you want me to answer a question for you, please email or call me. I want this area of the blog to be really useful. I look forward to hearing from you.

Until next time, happy planning.