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Wedding Planning for Men – How to Enjoy Your Wedding Day

May 27th, 2010 No Comments
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What a stupid title – it’s obvious how you enjoy your wedding day! After all, if you can’t enjoy your wedding day, you’re in a pretty bad shape for the rest of the days, aren’t you? Well, yes. In theory. In theory on your wedding day you get to see all of your friends and family, you get to dance badly, you get to look great, you get to eat food and drink that you’ve specially selected to reflect your tastes and, best of all – you get to stand in front of all those important people and declare how much you love your other half – what’s not to enjoy?

In fact, there are various reasons that the reality of the day doesn’t match up to the theory and you end up feeling short-changed. Perhaps foremost among the day ruiners are wedding nerves. This could be because of a fear that something will go wrong, or a fear that you’ll forget something. In this case it’s the expectation of perfection that causes the problems. The simplest solution to this is to get comfortable with the fact that your Perfect Day won’t be perfect. Someone will get too drunk, someone’s confetti will fall out of the box in a clump, someone will be blinking on one of the photos. But all of that’s ok – perfect is unattainable – what you’re going to have is a So-Good-It-Was-Practically-Perfect Day.

Another element that our readers often comment on is that wedding planning is a fraught business with the occasional argument along the way. These arguments if they’re not dealt with can build up into a resentment which smudges the big day too. A useful exercise to try before the wedding is to forgive and forget all of those arguments. You don’t need to do anything in particular, just accept that whatever went before has gone and now is the time to enjoy what you’ve got. If you couldn’t persuade the mother-of-the-bride to accept your idea of a football terrace-style chant for the walking out of the church music (“Whose the woman in the white?”) then rather than souring the day by harbouring that grudge, just let it go.

Fortunately in 99% of cases the wedding day is amazing. You’ve spent so long planning it that when it actually happens it all seems weirdly calm (that’s because you put the work in beforehand). Nearly every bride and groom get that wedding day buzz which can only come from people you love sending you positive vibes. It’s a special feeling. One practical tip to help you enjoy the day: everyone wants to speak to you on your wedding day – after all the bride and groom (and the beer) are the main attraction – it’s really useful to arrange to meet up with your bride at certain points throughout the day to share a moment/beer/kiss together. That way you don’t get to the end of your day not having said two words to each other – there’s plenty of time for those sorts of days when you’re married.

Staggered is the UK’s leading men’s wedding website offering help and advice to grooms, best men and fathers of the bride. Whether it’s mens wedding suits, stag-do-ideas or perhaps some help with engagement rings and proposals, men involved in weddings need to look at www.iamstaggered.com

Until next Thursday.

Wedding Planning For Men – Say Cheese!

April 29th, 2010
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Here is another gem from the Staggered crew! Is this a mans perspective? Not sure I agree with but its worth bearing in mind if this is what men think. This is why its always good to talk about exactly what you want from your wedding day.

This week for my sins I’ve been looking at a huge number of wedding photos. My eyes are strained from looking at nearly 5,000 mid-blink grooms and their I-Have-One-Expression-And-I’ll-Use-It-In-Every-Picture Brides (thanks Posh).

From this I have selected five wedding photographs that are popular now but in 20 years will be so painfully embarrassing that you’ll actually hope that your house burns down so that your wedding album goes up in smoke.

5 – The groom and groomsmen holding the bride horizontally. No bride, no matter how beautiful can pull off beauty at 180 degrees. The men look like they’re desperate not to grab her by the boobs and the bride looks like she’s smiling whilst being sick in her mouth.

4 – The bridesmaids doing something cute with the bride. Why do the bridesmaids never do anything cute with the groom? Perhaps the groom rubbing noses with the bridesmaid would be considered weird. However, brides + bridesmaids + cutesy pose = too much cute = not cute (hereafter known as The Staggered Formula).

3 – The massed group shot. Ok, these pictures are usually fun to have, if only so you can put it on the wall and cross off everyone who dies with biro. But these should be banned because it takes at least an hour to establish the shot and the photographer needs at least three nervous breakdowns to keep people from wandering back to the free Buck’s Fizz and, you know, having fun.

2 – People jumping. What gives? What makes otherwise sensible photographers ask people to jump up in the air? No one looks good when they’re airborne and let’s be honest it makes most of us look a little frumpy, which isn’t what you’re paying your money for.

1 – Not so much a pose but still the number one most embarrassing wedding photo nonetheless (we had it for our wedding so I’m clearly a gross hypocrite). It’s the black and white shot with one detail picked out in colour. You know the ones I mean. Essentially, the scene is in black and white but one detail is left in colour, courtesy of the photographers mastery of photoshop. It’s usually a flower but others I’ve seen have been the bridesmaids (weird, looked like The Shining) and – the wedding car, I kid you not. Please, no more.

Staggered is the UK’s leading men’s wedding website offering help and advice to grooms, best men and fathers of the bride. Whether it’s mens wedding suits, stag-do-ideas or perhaps some help with engagement rings and proposals, men involved in weddings need to look at www.iamstaggered.com

Until next Thursday.


Wedding Planning for Men – Five Reasons Why You Should Listen To The Groom’s Weird Wedding Ideas

April 15th, 2010
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I love this blog this week from I am Staggered because it does say that no matter what your style or personality put yourself into your wedding.

One of the main accusations that gets thrown at grooms’ wedding planning ideas is that, well, they’re often a bit weird. He wants to wear an Elvis jumpsuit, or have thrash metal as the arrival music, you know the sort of thing. I was reminded of this the other day when admiring this picture, which I think is awesome beyond recognition. Look at him. He’s having fun and putting some of his (admittedly odd) personality into the day. In honour of this katana-wielding hero, I thought I’d try and mount a defence of why you should listen to some of the groom’s weirder planning tips.

1) He Wants To Say His Vows in Klingon

Klingon is an incredibly efficient language, did you know that it only has one word for the colours green, blue and yellow? Think of how much time that would save when planning the colour scheme of a wedding. APPROVED.

2) He Wants You To Dress As Princess-Leia-Hutt-Prisoner-Era

Yes, it’s a bit weird that he wants you to dress in a metal bikini and stick Danish pastries on your head, but it’s only because he thinks you would look super hot and as long as he’s not dressed as Skywalker (that’s her brother, remember?), where’s the harm? If you absolutely have to refuse, why not promise it to him for the honeymoon? PART-APPROVED.

3) He Wants To Arrive In the TARDIS

Firstly, impress him by revealing that you know that TARDIS stands for Time And Relative Dimensions In Space; then say yes, on the condition that you can have the reception in it afterwards, that thing could comfortably seat 250. APPROVED.

4) He Wants To Write His Wedding Vows in HTML

Haven’t you heard the news?  Geek wedding vows are all the rage and if your bloke is a bit of a nerd then what’s wrong with him expressing himself as only he can – it means it’s from the heart. APPROVED.

5) He Wants A Team of Ewoks To Re-enact the Forest Moon of Endor Party Scene

Ok, that is odd. You’re either going to have to find really compliant children or go to a specialist casting agency and either way that’s going to cost you. DENIED.

Staggered is the UK’s leading men’s wedding website offering help and advice to grooms, best men and fathers of the bride. Whether it’s mens wedding suits, stag-do-ideas or perhaps some help with engagement rings and proposals, men involved in weddings need to look at www.iamstaggered.com

Until next Thursday,

Wedding Planning for Men! – More Toasts Please

April 1st, 2010 No Comments
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Wow so excited! this is the first of our regular Thursday features from I am Staggered. Its all about toasts enjoy!

If I had a pound for every time a groom, best man or father of the bride has told me that he’s scared of doing his wedding speech then I’d have no pounds. That’s because blokes never actually admit fear to one another, in case the other man thinks they’re weak. But if I had a pound for every time I’ve seen that look of fear in a man’s eyes when he’s thinking about his speech then I’d have a lot of pounds. Possibly 900.

It annoys me to think of men potentially ruining the Happiest Day Of Their Lives Too when there are so many ways of getting around the issue of the speeches. First and foremost there’s the solid gold guarantee I’ll give that if you prepare and practice for your wedding speech, it wont be a thing of fear, it will be a thing of beauty.

Another easy option is to move the speeches – its only tradition that has them after the meal and tradition is there for us to trample on. So get them out of the way at the beginning of the meal, or even at the beginning of the day and have them in front of a very limited gathering of people, that way your day is free of fear (I dos aside).

Alternatively, when society is moving towards the pithy rather than the prolix why not make a toast instead? To make a toast you stand up, wish the couple something heartfelt in a few lines, everyone drinks to your toast and you sit down. With more time to spare you can open things up so that everyone makes a toast if they like. The bonus for guests is that their drink.waffle ration is massively improved, no one is scared and everyone’s a winner.

Until next Thursday, happy planning.