Christmas is nearly upon us and those party invites start to roll in. I don’t know about you but sometimes the dress code blows my mind. Smart casual has me running for the trees? What is that anyway?
Many weddings are black tie at this time of year and that is another area where sometimes it’s tricky to know what to wear. Is it short black dresses? Do our men need to wear a DJ? Well according to the internet research I did for ladies at least. Black tie etiquette is a little blurred.
It is acceptable to wear short black cocktail dresses. It seems long dresses are largely now left for “White Tie” events? Yes I know very uber glam! I must say I have never been to one, but that is all out glamour. Long gloves, long dresses and men in tails with satin stripes down their trousers!! Wow!
If you choose to have a wedding that denotes “Black Tie” there should be a little addition to the invite that states “Black Tie Attire”. Then your guests will turn up in the right apparell. The wedding ceremony and reception is generally an evening affair, after 6pm is the definition for black tie.
I must say I do love the idea of dressing up in a lavish dress for a black tie wedding. The thought of this teamed with bright red and black put together beautifully makes my heart race. Think holly berries, mulled wine in lovely glassware, tables cloths or chair covers in black with table runners in gorgeous deep reds.
I love this mood board I found on Black Tie Invitations. The reds are so luxurious and superbly elegant.
What about this idea for chairs too?
Not sure about you but a man in a fabulous suit, cut to perfection makes me swoon! I asked our Genie Dream Team Supplier Adrian from The Bespoke Tailor to give me some advice on how to dress our guys for Black Tie events and weddings.
Adrian says ” With the “Black Tie” season only just round the corner, are you concerned as to what the right etiquette is? Well worry no more, read on!
Suit
When “black tie” appears on an invitation it is an indication that the guest is expected to wear formal evening dress. This consists of a dinner jacket, with matching trousers, most often in black. The dinner jacket will have satin lapels and trimmings to make it distinct from a lounge jacket, which is for daytime use. The trousers should have a satin braid down the length of the outer leg seam.
Shirt
The dinner suit should be work with a white dress shirt. The choice of collar style, either wing or standard collar, is optional and down to personal choice.
Bow Tie
A black bow tie should be worn. These can be either pre-tied or self-tied. It’s worth practicing to tie a bow tie for that extra special feel. You can accessorise this by wearing a matching cummerbund too.
Waistcoat
An alternative to cummerbund is a waistcoat. With a double-breasted jacket, neither is necessary.
Cufflinks
Evening shirts will always come with a double cuff, so don’t forget to pack your cufflinks!
Pocket Square
Although not necessary this is a nice finishing touch. If you choose to wear one avoid colour stick to white cotton or linen. There are many ways to fold the pocket square but the “three point fold” is our favourite for 2011.
Shoes
Dress shoes are a very important part of the outfit. Ideally, plain black patent or fine leather shoes should be worn.
Socks
Always wear black fine-gauge knee-length socks – there is nothing more tacky than a flash of flesh when all dressed up.
Hey what do you think of my example of a black tie suit? OMG could not resist showing you this.

Adrian really does know what he is talking about. His suits are to die for, designed and handmade by him for you! If you are planning a wedding next year and you want to kit your husband to be out in something fabulous don’t think about going anywhere else. If you are having a black tie wedding this christmas I would love to see it featured on my blog. Call or mail me if you want to send me your photographs after the wedding. I love to show real brides to inspire my brides and me!!
Until next time, happy planning.
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